Our Marriage Almost Ended

We didn’t wake up planning to almost get divorced. Honestly, we were holding hand praising Jesus the night before and everything felt fine that morning. But in a span five hours, our marriage went from steady to hopeless. It was WILD, and I'm convinced it was spiritual.

It started small. One of those normal marriage conversations where something rubs wrong. But then it snowballed, and I couldn't believe how fast. At one point Whit described this vision of a red spot that represented our fight, and as she looked at it, she saw threads running back through our marriage, connecting every failure of mine into one big, undeniable picture. To her, it felt like revelation. Like God Himself had just revealed the truth about our marriage ...that it was ALL a mistake.

And she was sure of it.

In that moment, all the good we’ve lived, all the growth we’ve fought for, all the grace we’ve shared, it felt like it got swallowed whole by one brilliantly constructed lie. Hopeless doesn’t even begin to describe it.

But here’s where grace showed up.

Somehow, Whit found the courage to look at that “revelation” and say, What if this isn’t the voice of God? What if this is the accuser's voice? She didn’t suddenly feel better. She didn’t suddenly believe in me again. But she grabbed onto the tiniest crumb of hope. And with nothing more than that crumb, she began to pull herself back into the game. It was one of the most powerful choices I've ever seen. She chose faith in the absence of hope - just straight up chose it.

It was way bigger than I could ever communicate in words. Like even as I type this over 4 weeks later I feel overwhelmed with pride in the courage of my wife.

Things are better now - but we’re not sharing this because it’s wrapped up in a neat bow today. We’re sharing it because this is real life, and marriage is a battlefield, especially when you’ve said yes to Jesus in big ways. If the enemy fought this hard to tear us apart in just five hours, then we believe there's something on the other side worth fighting for.

This is part of our journey to Cape Town and we want to share it all. We've decided to skip the highlight reel, and share the reality. We’re not walking into missions as some polished couple with a perfect track record. We’re walking in with scars ...so many scars. AND with a marriage that’s still standing because of Jesus.

We've never been more grateful for each other and for our marriage than we are TODAY - and it feels like sweet sweet honey on my lips!!

If you’ve been through storms like this, you know the fight. You know how fragile and how sacred hope is. If you can relate to this kind darkness in your mind, We’d love to pray with you.

REMEMBER: Jesus didn't give us armor so we could stand passively by. And none of the armor covers our back because He didn't intend to find us running away. If you're feeling defeated or hopeless, if your faith is dim or your hallelujah is tired, then maybe this is your day ...get back up off the ground and kick the darkness in the teeth! It feels sooooo good